Category: Dating and Relationships
I was wondering how long should partners bee allowed to bee mad at eachother. Please no sarcasm
how can you expect to not get sarcasm? i wouldn't be surprised if you get tons more now, since you asked for it.
Maybe if you explain what do you mean about being madd about each other would be good. At the moment i don't know what to tell you.
I would think it would depend on what the two people are fighting about and how hurt your feelings are. If someone said something really horrible that you feel he or she should apologize for, then you can't expect to get over being mad right away. But it depends on the situation, the focus of the argument, the two people involved, etc.
I think the both of you should first of all thicken your skins so there's little that's going to set you off and make you angry. Then the both of you should communicate a helluva lot more, which will hopefully help minimize any fighting or anger. If you are stuck and the absolute only alternative is to be angry, keep it brief, unless both of you are so twisted that you think it's OK to hold onto anger and hold grudges and let things fester like that.
LOL Godzilla on Toast
That's awesome.
Seriously... i've known couples who refuse to go to sleep angry and their relationships are the better for it. They do have disagreement,s but they aren't yelling and screaming matches.
So yeah... I'd say "don't go to sleep angry"
you should never under any circumstances go to bed mad at your lover.
If madness hightens your sexual apetite, then of course you should allow it to last for as long as possible, be careful though, you could still over do things, and end up dead.
Mad, what's that? LOL Seriously, I get mad maybe once every 10 years or so. Seriously, I never get angry.
I do not think you should allow your anger to last more than three and a half minutes. Use the remaining fifty six and a half minute of the hour for making up.
well what if your boyfriend cheated on you and you still love / care about him and now your friends and family are saying it's not a good idea to go to see him because he treats you like shit? I'm saying this because I was mad at him for doing that, and I stil am upset, but I'm trying to move on and that's all I can do. I have forgiven him sort of, but I'll never forget what happened. And what do you do if you still want to remain friends with this person?
Kat, you move on, because if it's who I think it is you talk of, the rumours are, he's moved on and will be banging someone else pretty soon. Sorry if that hurts, but it's what I've been told. Sure being told isn't knowing for sure, but he's the sort that will cheat again and again, I don't know you, but I hear you're worth much more than you'll ever get from him.
Kat all I will say is it's best to move on and forget if you can. He's part of your past just do better in your future picking someone.
Move on Watson. He doesnt deserve you.
You're a big girl. You can't let your family run your life. Start making your own decissions. Also, you need to learn to let go of past relationships. Unless you are in a truly extraordinary circomstance then you wouldn't be contemplating visiting your ex, unless you expected to get back together with them. Very very few people maintain close friendly relationships with their exs. Not that it's not possible, but if you still, now, what was it, love slash care for someone, to the point where you want to go and see them again, why would you allow uninvolved strangers to post such things about that person? Just wondering. Also, it would behoove individuals who are not involved in a particular situation dirrectly to simply stay out of it. I see this childish squabbling, gosiping and accusing going on all over the zone, and it's rediculous. And, this is the last I intend to say, but why would you post your very personal problems, thoughts and feelings on a public website? Nothing goes onto face book, live journal, my space, the zone or any other public forum that is that deeply personal. Such issues are reserved for close friends like my Mike and my Kait.
I agree with the last post.
thank you for all posting here. You all have alsume points that were serious and those I did nto get too. Thank you!!q
I'm confuzzled, cat, if you agree with the last post then why would you come on here asking how people feel about it. then when you get your answer you agree with someone else saying others should stay out of it. makes no sence. Kev was just telling you what you didn't want to hear because you already know he's right. so yeah, if you don't want to know what people have to say about it, and dont' want to hear the truth, then don't post on the boards telling your issues and asking what people think. After all your the one that is goin to end up hurt, not us! Hope you get this sorted out Smiles, shea
There's a Savage Gardin song that I really love. the very first line is, I believe the sun should never set upon an arguement. I agree that this is the best way to go, if at all possible. Sometimes there needs to be space though, and every arguement can't be resolved in a day, or before evening falls. Communication is the most important thing, it helps avoid fights and also helps those issues that come up anyway. Also, it's important to remember that getting angry can be a perfectly natural and healthy reaction to a situation. It's how you handle your anger that matters most. If you are truly justified in being angry, stick to your guns, compermise, but don't just fold. Don't ignore problems to avoid fights, get it out in the open so that it can be delt with and so it won't fester and grow. If you are in part responsible for or are exclusively responsible for a fight, don't be afraid to appoligize. Accept appoligies when they are given, and appreciate that they happened at all. Don't expect to be able to forgive right away, but don't refuse to forgive, is it will end up hurting you, not only the person who you can't seem to forgive. Remember that you love your boy friend, girlfriend, lover, partner, husband or wife. That is the most important thing. If there is love, there can also be found a solution.
Depends on what the situation is. If it's on the lines of cheating then it may be forgivable after a period of time but not forgotten.
Well, I don't think the length of time is as important as the issue you're fighting about. What's important is whether you love him and he loves you. Sit down and talk about what matters most to you both. If love is there, you can overcome any obstacle. Love like today's your last day on Earth, or like it's his.
Well-said.
Long enough for both of you to understand whats going on and settle things out. Like what the previous board post said, it depends on the kind of situation that your dealing wiht. If both of you don't wana break it off, then cool off for awhile and talk it out. Make sure to give each other a chance to voice out their side of the situation.
What do you mean by "allowing your partner to be mad"? I assume you're talking about making up after a fight. In that case, it really depends on how wrong/right your position is/was. If you feel that you are in the wrong, then of course you should try to make amends right away. If you feel that you are both wrong to some extent, it's probably a good idea to figure out your differences while you still remember what exactly the issue was. If you feel you are completely right, the situation is more difficult--you can't really influence how long your partner is going to be mad because either you try to appease him/her by denying how you really feel, which spells trouble in the long term, or you stick to your guns, in which case your partner needs to figure out if s/he can live with your position or not.
What really worries me is your formulation of the question. Asking how long you should "allow" your partner to have a certain feeling sounds awfully manipulative to me!